Emotionally Focused Therapy for Beginners

The fight you keep having is not the real problem. Underneath every recurring couple argument sits a specific pattern, running in the space between two people, that neither partner chose and neither partner can defeat by themselves. Emotionally Focused Therapy names that pattern and helps both partners change it together. This book is a client-facing introduction to what EFT actually does. It walks through the three stages and nine steps in plain language, explains what happens in the first three sessions, describes the two positions most couples fall into, and stays honest about what the therapy can and cannot fix. Written for couples about to start EFT, couples already in EFT, and readers who have finished Hold Me Tight and want the wider model behind it. The bond is the therapy. The cycle is the enemy. This book helps you begin.